Aside from my life-long friend, I didn't keep in touch with ANYONE from my elementary school...so we're talking over 35 years since I've seen some of these people!
Naturally, the invite prompted me to peek around at other people's profiles to see what they've done with their lives. Can I tell you, it's creepy...
Most of my class are HIGHLY successful professionals. C-level managers at Fortune 500 companies or owners of their own firms, many attorneys, a couple of professors at ivy league universities, professional-level athletes, leaders who created their own non-profits.
A few I gather are divorced (maiden names or pictures of children without another spouse) or never married, but most appear to be married with kids.
A couple have moved overseas or to the west coast, but I am surprised by how many stayed within the general vicinty of my hometown.
Yes - a few have some pounds to lose, or their hairline has receded a bit, but overwhelmingly my class looks good for our age.
Stragest of all - one of my former classmates is in the same industry as me and works less than three minutes from my office.
This prompted me to pull out my old class photos...and I came across the photo of me below at about the same age as G.
So, do I regret my child doesn't look like me we used donor eggs? What do you think?
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Aww - y'all are both adorable! I do think in some ways it would be freeing to not worry about my baby having our family nose or inheriting my migraines- Hope all is well!
Thanks TurtleMama. I agree...many benefits to not inheriting my genes.
And even if F and G had inherited your genes, who's to say that they'd look like you? My nieces and nephews (particularly my youngest niece) look way more like me than my daughter does. Of anyone in either side of the family, she most resembles her paternal grandfather. I regularly hold her and look into the mirror and marvel at how little she and I look alike, especially given how much I looked like my mom, and she like her mom, and she like her mom. We've got some pictures of the four generations together and it is obvious that we're all related. If I added Gwen in? I don't know.
But she has recently picked up my mischievous, wrinkled nose smile, and when I see that, I can finally see some of her in me. Genes or mimicry? Who knows.
Would love to talk to you about your embryo donation. You wrote such beautiful posts about it and they inspired my approach to donation as well. I'd like to ask you some more questions about. I'll try to dig up your email address.
You're absolutely correct!
Even though we have the same biological parents (or someone's keeping a VERY GOOD secret - LOL), my sister and I look like we come from different countries. I am fair-skinned with freckles and thin (but LOTS)of wavy brown hair. My sister is olive-skinned with thick, black, tightly-curled hair and no freckles. Even personality-wise, we are very different. We were estranged for many years. We just started talking again in the past several years, but I honestly doubt we'd have kept in touch beyond the first time we met if we ever encountered each other as strangers.
Hi Michelle,
You can always reach me at flygirl555@gmail.com. I'd love to talk!
Next week is a BUSY one for me...so if I don't reply quickly, please forgive me.
It's close to midnight on Friday and I'm just finishing up some stuff for work (and still have a few hours more to do between now and Sunday).
She DOES look like you....wow. Have fun at the reunion!.....yes, your classmates put some of us to shame. Wow!
She looks a lot like you! My adopted friend's daughter has her mama's mama's smile. Impossible but true. Family is family!
Thanks Iveta and Jessica - I sort of thought she looks a little like me too! :)
For the past few months, I've been thinking that she favors you...especially her eyes! I sincerely believe that donor children take on characteristics of their parents, and yours are no different. It's fun watching them grow!
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