Friday, July 30, 2010

Have Almost Two Weeks Have Passed? Really?

For those of you waiting to cycle and feel like it takes forever, start a blog! I can hardly believe it's been over 15 days since my last post! The time is just flying!

In the world of IVF, not much has been happening. Was just waiting on my AF - which I think finally arrived late this afternoon. Next week should be an exciting one - my first time getting a calendar with some dates! The nurse wanted my cycle to start about a week before my donor's  but it sounds like we might have done that naturally now. Not sure if that's good, bad or neutral.

So, this time I really do want to write about twins.

I follow two different message boards pretty closely with women who are all at various stages of the process. Seems like lately, there have been lots and lots of twin announcements.

When I first started this process, I was hoping for twins. Knowing that my husband and I are older, we agreed that as soon as we have our baby / babies, that would be it - no more pregnancies for me. I have two labs, and although I realize kids are very different, that was easy. So, I thought that if I have one newborn, how much harder can two ore even three be? Sounded like the perfect plan. In fact, during my last DE process, I convinced the RE to put back three.

After talking with my new RE and having him explain why he refuses to implant more than two DE at one time has given me a fresh perspective.  As he described the increased risks and the physical and health problems he's seen over the years, I swear I could see the anguish in his eyes.

The last thing I would ever want to do would be to risk the health of my future child / children. After doing some additional reading, I have had a 180-degree shift in my attitude and am perfectly comfortable with two and no more.

I just have to trust that whatever is meant to be, is meant to be...and it is out of my hands.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I hear ya... there are a lot of risks that come with twins, and it's hard to decide how many embies to transfer when the stakes are so high. It's good that you're getting different perspectives so that you can make an informed decision!

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